The fruit of the Spirit is not a list of virtues that the Christian tries to attain. Rather, it is the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives. The first fruit is love.
God wants to distribute His love to the world through you. But first, He wants to solidify His love in you.
We don’t just muster up love for love God and others. Rather, God wants us to be certain of His love for us. When we are convinced of God’s love for us in the deepest part of who we are, we find that loves grows for others.